Shelby Sue: I find it hard, not so much for myself, but for some others, to reconcile the fact that I'm a submissive woman with the fact that I am the group leader, and I will, in fact, enforce my rules. That's difficult for me to swallow because in all other aspects of my life I'm very much an alpha personality, and while it doesn't make me less submissive, it makes me a bit of a dichotomy in some people's eyes. My submission has nothing to do with the well being, safety and comfort of those in the group I chose to start and continue to lead, and so I have to step up and take the responsibility that goes with the fun of having a group to be part of.
Still, though, I would say that the vast majority of people in the community are good people who don't want to hurt others, who want to follow the rules b/c they understand those rules keep us all safe. What I had to realize and fully accept was that being soft and kind was not going to change the behavior of the few.
Sera Miles: The best compliment to me tends to be any variation on "thank you for being here."