Hello all.
Thank you, to everyone who has followed my blog for
the last 5 or so years.
You have taught me and uplifted me.
I love you all.
Leather Bear Tails Retired 04/08/2017.
(Picture by Fox_Fotography!!!!) Leather Bear Tails is about the leather journey of my slave and I. It deals with all parts of the leather and BDSM experience from safety to predators, to skills, and all of the lovely mistakes that she and I make along the way!! Also!! I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it can be found for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html
I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html
Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+us
I am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information! The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!
If you are interested in power munches, skills workshops or play parties in the Albuquerque area please contact the 20 year organization of AEL at:
aelmailing@gmail.com
If you are interested in active online community please find:
Fetlife.com
Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:
Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers
Albuquerque Kinksters
KinkySpot Clubhouse
Albuquerque Master/slave forum
New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More
Saturday, April 8, 2017
Friday, March 24, 2017
SPRING PAN IS HERE!!!!!
What are you
doing sitting here and reading my blog, when you should be packing and
wonderfully anticipating tonight’s beginning of SPRING PAN!
Take a
look at the classes , volunteered and picked from your community!
Witchcraft
and BDSM: Aftercare as Ritual
I Want It
All: How to Negotiate for What you Want
Us
Littles
Building
Online Profiles and Netiquette
The “What makes you Tick?” Panel
Playing
While Disabled
The Art
of Erotic Flogging: From Beginner to Advanced
Exploring
Degradation and Psychological Sadism
Gender Rebels: Navigating Gender
Identity in a BDSM Context
Play parties, Raffles, Host rooms from your favorites local groups, and meet and greet!
Sunday, March 19, 2017
MY NEXT PUBLISHED BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE!!!!!!!!
It was a
huge breakthrough for me to write and then publish “M/S for the Rest of Us”.
It was a
dream come true and still feels somewhat surreal.
The feedback
that I have gotten on M/s from people
who I have sent it to for a review has been intense for me. It has all been overwhelmingly positive and
powerful.
Here is a link:
So today,
the third book that I have written, and the second book that I have gotten published
is available.
It is called “Nurse V
Nurse”
It can be a
little hard to find because there are a lot of Nurse V---- out there.
So here are
the links.
It will also be available in e form soon!
I am so
excited!!!!!!!!
Thank you
everyone for all of your love and support!
Friday, March 17, 2017
Redefining Dangerous
Politics can
be a very hard thing. But what is it really? It is a belief or a set of beliefs
that make us all different. Nothing
divides us or unites us so deeply and strongly as our personal passionate beliefs.
Not just the wants that get us through the day to day. Like - ok vanilla creamer in the morning coffee
instead of mocha creamer. Or ok, tuna at
lunch and not turkey. Not those. (Not even
if you are REALLY passionate about turkey.)
I am talking
the biggies. The hard core, visceral beliefs that separate us as people. Those
things are usually based in the concepts of morality, justice, and what we
truly and honestly believe is right.
Things in
particular to BDSM:
Do you
believe it is ok to drink or use before, during, or after play?
Do you believe
it is OK to blacklist someone out of the community based on a personal issue? (I.e.
they aren’t dangerous, or bad, you just don’t like them.)
Do you believe
it is a right and just thing to warn others about groups that you feel are
predatory and dangerous?
Do you
believe in inclusion, exclusion, or both?
How do you define someone as dangerous?
Let’s take
the last one here. How do you define someone
as dangerous?
I think as a
rule we can all say the same basic four things that can apply to both tops and bottoms:
Skews
consent
Manipulates
coercion
Isolation
Withholding
of affection and/or support to achieve control
Blah blah
blah, we all get that.
But what
else makes someone dangerous?
What if it is
as simple as treating people badly to the point of running them out?
You could argue
that this has nothing to do with BDSM. That they most likely treat people badly
everywhere they go.
But I argue
that because BDSM is a small community, and because BDSM is a major part of identity,
that the running of people out of a community is perhaps more dangerous then
the unskilled player.
They are, in
essence, step by step removing support systems from someone who, may deeply
need it, and in turn may accidentally hurt themselves or others.
Creating
unsafe space for people is deeply damaging, not just to those that leave because
of it, but to those that stay and fight for some sort of balance after it.
Dangerous is
easy to define when someone carries a scar, or loses a finger. It is much harder to define when the psyche
gets scarred. The emotions get jacked to
high hell, and the sense of safety is compromised.
But I argue,
that a scarred psyche and compromised safety are just as, if not more, dangerous then a lost finger.
Friday, March 10, 2017
Lead with an open heart. OR not at all.
Lead with an
open heart. OR not at all.
I wrote this
in my last blog. It is a modified quote from
Ghandi.
The actual quote is:
“In doing
something, do it with love or never do it at all.”
I have found
that since last November this quote, that
I have kept to my heart like my blood
that flows through it, I am not able to
do.
I am angry,
bitter, judgmental, and unable to let love lead. Truly unable to lead.
To me,
letting love lead means putting the self aside, and being there for the other person
- where they are, not where you think they should be. It means me saying- these
are the other groups that you should look into- even if I personally am not
welcome there. It means acceptance and
humility. It means putting aside my
wants and needs so that another can grow in their
BDSM, their way.
Being a
leader is only partly about putting on events. It is bigger than that. It is about reaching people, giving them that
hope, and helping them grow. It is about putting you away- and not just
listening, but truly hearing them. Putting away your own judgments by asking
questions and hearing the answers. For them, not for you. Opening the door, and
holding their hands that first few steps. With the promise to be there after they have found their footing.
And that applies to whether they are
brand new, or 50 years in and growing into something new.
These are
the parts of leadership that I truly feel make leaders worth following.
This is a
part of me that I lost in November. I am
still here, by my fingernails. I will still
work behind the scenes, do what I can.
But I truly feel that, as even though my
love and I continue to have a solid M/s relationship. That I cannot give to the community what it
deserves.
I removed my
leather honor patch.
I may put it
back on again, when I feel I have something to offer worth honoring.
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