So I hope that this doesn’t come off harsh but:
I see you as a submissive because you come to me asking to
learn about how to be a Dominant, yet I can’t hear you talk. Still after 2
hours don’t know your name or your gender, when I asked you to direct someone,
your eyes wander, your hands twitch at your sides constantly slapping your
thighs, and your shoulders slump; you search around eagerly for the easiest
thing for them to do.
You choose it not because you want that thing, but
because it is easy for the person that you are working with to achieve. As they approach you with your chosen item
you reach for it to lift it from them. Your eyes wont met mine, and you shift
in your stance, murmuring your words.
When asked to be in service your hands stop moving, your
shoulders straighten, and you look me right in the eye. You walk with confidence in what you are
asked to do. Stand quietly when not being asked to do something and overall
exude a happier more connected self. Your feet are spread shoulder length
apart. It is the first time I see
relaxation and joy in you since we began.
You say that you are withdrawn and submissive around people
but with crowds that you know you are gregarious and “Dominant”. I ask “do you
get these crowd things to drink, make sure that they are comfortable?” You
answer ‘yes’ because you think it is the right answer. I explain that you aren’t being “Dominant” you
are being in service., You
get defensive. You say “No” .I says “OK’”
You say “So you are saying I am a submissive” and I say “NO
I am saying that right now in this moment, submission is where you appear more
comfortable.” You get angry. This isn’t what you wanted to hear.
I ask you to re assume your Dominant position. Again you drop
your eyes, your voice, your shoulders, and I know that as soon as I ask
you a question, I won’t be able hear the answer.
And I think “I WILL NOT make judgment on HOW you want to identify. But I can’t make you into something that you are not. This is such a
waste of a good submissive.”
So I smile and we continue.
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