Hello there evrfybody, not back 100% yet but close. Still pretty weak, but my slave is taking amazing care of me still.
Here is something I wrote in 2010 I think.......
I am seeing a
disturbing trend among people with a Master identity. It is something
that has bothered me for a very long time; I just couldn’t quite put my
finger on it. Then the other day I was out with my slave and we were
bouncing ideas back and forth off of each other ~ she does keep me on my toes~ and
I was recounting an experience that I had several years back. I was
listening to a Master speak, and they talked about how they were
emotionally unavailable. I remember thinking to myself: OK, I can see
how stating your limitation up front in the relationship is helpful,
that gives the submissive or slave a chance right there to decide
whether or not the relationship is for them.
This
person went on to say that they punish when they are angry. I remember
thinking: OK, not my thing, but it is always good to hear about how
other people do things. This person went on to talk about how they had
beaten their ex-slave (pay real close attention to the EX part) nearly
unconscious for sending out an e mail without the Masters permission.
At
this point I figured that I had heard enough, and I excused myself from
the discussion. Since that time I have heard countless echo’s from
Masters with the same types of sentiments.
It
is based in the idea that if a person is Master identified then they no
longer have to 1) emotionally challenge themselves to grow. 2) Deal
with their anger issues in a responsible and self diffusing manner and
3) need any type of self control when dealing with those that serve
under them.
When was it that
just because a person has a title (and more often then not a self
appointed one) that this title relieves them of the responsibilities
that we all have to ourselves and the ones that serve under us? In
my opinion a Master needs to not only take responsibility and
accountability for their own emotions but they also need to be able to
problem solve and show leadership through tense and emotionally charged
situations. Not indulge themselves in self serving and destructive
behavior just because they have someone that serves them.
Emotional
growth is extremely challenging, it will challenge how you feel, what
you think and how you move in the world. Often it is easier to give
ourselves excuses about why emotional growth doesn’t need to happen then
it is to push through the challenge, reevaluate ourselves and possibly change how we act and what we think.
Anger is a complex composite of emotion. For some anger is about being explosive, for
others it is about denial and for others it as about recognizing that
anger is a signal that there is an underlying issue that needs to be
addressed. There is however, a trick to the emotion of anger. For some,
the power that they feel over their lives is heightened when they feel
angry, and that power becomes addictive. If a person who
feels empowered when they are angry spikes that emotional charge by
physically punishing their submissive or slave when they are angry it
starts a cycle.
When the Master does it at first they feel euphoria
followed by a release of the anger, and a return to a relaxed and calm
sate. Over time the euphoria takes a greater and greater amount of
intensity to achieve~ so sometimes unknowingly, the
physical punishments become more and more extreme, because emotionally
the Master is still seeking the euphoria/release. The
anger/euphoria/release pattern can also become the Masters emotional
comfort zone, this leads to the Master becoming emotionally geared to
creating a pattern of behavior from the slave that will start the cycle.
Although I recognize
that entitlement happens in all types of relationships and relationship
titles, seeing how Master s blatantly use their title to allow
themselves to remain emotionally stunted, or disassociate themselves
from the responsibilities of life is both disturbing and disappointing.
How
can you push your slave if you cannot push yourself? How can you
require that a person give and give and give if you are incapable of it?
How can you expect someone self to hold their temper and hold their
tongue, if you are unable or unwilling to get your own self under
control? But most of all how can you consider yourself a leader when those that follow you become lost and weak in your presence?
Strong
Masters make strong slaves. Self confident, invested Masters make self
confident invested slaves.
Grandiose emotionally detached Masters
create ex-slaves with horror stories.
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