Leather Families Part Two of Three

Two, I will never share my slave, family or no. In my family no one feels rights over the others property. 

And three, I was accepted for who I was from the outright. I didn’t have to serve others in my family to earn my place. That didn’t mean I didn’t have to work. But it did mean that I earned my place over time through my community service and my relationships. Not from being subservient or having to give my slave up to the will of others.

So that is what my family looks like. What does your family look, like if you were to diagram them? If you don’t have a family, but would like one, how does that look to you?

The next question is how does one get a leather family? Or be asked to join a leather family? There are a few ways to do this.

You can:

1) Build your own family by meeting others and asking them to join 

2) Petition a family to be one of their members 

3) Recognize that you are in a group of people that you love and you are all probably family to start with, but just don’t have a name. 

Some questions to ask are: 

If you are going to start a leather family, how does that look to you? Try mapping it out. Do you want to be the head, the bottom with multiple heads, or do you want a more lateral structure like mine?

Secondly, what are your goals?  Do you want to all live together? Do you want to only have people at your age/social/financial level? Do you want to have people petition, earn their leather, earn their patches, or earn their places? 

And thirdly What will be the things that bind you? Sex? Play? Organizing?  Mutual respect? Support and growth? 

This is a huge question because it determines lot.  If your goal is to play and have sex with everyone in your family, then be prepared for your family to shift a lot as the people in your family find other sex or play partners. 

Be careful of what I call the “Idiot Dominant Pyramid”.  This is where the Dominant thinks that by bringing home multiple lovers and play partners that they will all be having sex and playing with each other at the Dominants bidding.  (A sister wife’s concept made more complex by the Dominant feeling that by telling two people to have sex with each other they will simply jump into bed all smiles and readiness). 

Now- warning here- this can be done, but it is rare and needs to be carefully and thoroughly negotiated before, during, and after.  

Surprising a submissive with the Dominants latest crush and expecting everyone to be thrilled about having sex or play with each other is a quick way for hurt feelings to lead to being single Dominant. 

 If your goals are more growth and learning, then you could anticipate a longer lasting family as you all grow and push each other to be the best that they can be and what ties you together is more flexible then play or sex.