I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+us

I am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information!
The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!

If you are interested in power munches, skills workshops or play parties in the Albuquerque area please contact the 20 year organization of AEL at:


If you are interested in active online community please find:


Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:

Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers

Albuquerque Kinksters

KinkySpot Clubhouse

Albuquerque Master/slave forum

New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More

Friday, December 25, 2015

Keep your eyes on the Wet Munch.

I have been taking it easy lately, well as easy as I let myself. It is the wonderful winter time and my lungs, as usual, need a little TLC. So I am relaxing and letting life wash over me like a big fluffy comforter. My hands are shaky, a side effect from the meds. It doesn’t bother me, never has. It is temporary and a reminder that I am doing self care.

Last Sunday was the Wet Munch. I have been LOVING my part in  producing the Wet Munches educational section. The organizers of the Wet Munch  are tons of fun  to  work  with. I also love having a venue that isn’t to intimidating for those that are wanting to  wet their “public speaker”  feet.  Last week was Sir B talking about “littles.” I learned so much and quite honestly I wish that he could have talked twice as long.  I have more questions that I would like answered. 

But I keep the educational part down to 15 minutes for speaking and 5 for questions for a couple of reasons. One is, it is a social venue and I don’t want to tie up time or space on a 30-45 min talk. The other is that I need a lot of speakers, 2 a month, that’s 24 a year. And since I can’t possible vet  them  all  and get it  done  in  a timely manner without seriously limiting my speaker pool, I limit their time. So I figure 15 minutes. It is way too little for a powerful speaker, and way too long for a less skilled one. Plus Albuquerque has so much to offer that I want everyone to have the chance to come and cut their teeth, or talk about that thing that excites them.

It has been really interesting to see who attends and who doesn’t. So far the front room has been full   when the speaker takes the stage. I have been happy with that.  

The organizers of the Wet Munch post the next speaker and topic blurb on the Monday or Tuesday two weeks before hand. So it is going really well, and as the format becomes more consistent, it is evening out, as these things tend to do. 

I am also in the final edits of my second book. This one is a little tougher then the first, more emotional, much more difficult. But I am hoping for publication by Jan 15th at the latest.  

So that is what is going on in casa de Oso.

Keep your eyes on the Wet Munch. 

In January we bring you- ABQ Butterfly and Just Horns.


Friday, December 18, 2015

Remove the stick from thine Ass

This is to  all  the stuffy Domes/Dommes, Tops,  Daddys, Masters and in general "D" types to  remove the stick  from  your ass and remember that  this-  your dynamic- is also  is about life. 

So  it all  started a few years ago. W/we had gone to  McCall's pumpkin patch and she saw this hat.  she demanded that we get this hat for me. As soon as I put it on  I knew that I was hooked and many hats have come since. So  here is my hat collection. It that helps me remember that as much as I am  a Master, I am  a person. And how lucky am I that I have a slave that sees ALL of me.  

The "crazy monkey " hat that started it all, neighbors stay away from  me when I wear this hat

"Skunky" I have to  be in just the right mood for this hat

"Turkey shits out head" hat.  when I don't need to  cover my ears                                                              

My "Wolf" hat,  the only one with "dignity"

"Froggy"  the latest of my acquisitions! 

Friday, December 11, 2015

Today’s BDSM

It is December and I love this time of year. It is the coming onto the New Year, and for me it is a time of reflection and anticipation. The last year has been so powerful and this coming up year is making promises that I know that it will keep!

One of the things that I absolutely love about our community is the IMMENSE diversity. There are multiple events going on every week and two large events a year. Coming up this year there are two new groups to add to our growing and diverse community. 

One is the “New Mexico Menagerie”; it is for people that identify as mystical creatures. For more information on this group email the group leader at:  hillashton19@gmail.com

The other is the Women’s dinner. This is going to be on the second Friday of every month at Cafe DaLat. I am very excited about this group. For more information  check  out the fetlife event page here:https://fetlife.com/events/404295

I am continuing the Albuquerque Masters Group, but I don’t know what I will do. Most likely it will be a meeting and then a play party every other month. Free, of course, with a potluck. We will have places for needle play, cutting and fire play if that is what interests’ people. Maybe a class or two related to M/s. I am letting the wind take me at the moment and see what sparks a flame in me.  Contact me at bigdykebear@yahoo.com  for more information.

AEL will continue to offer their AMAZING power munches, play parties and classes. Contact aelmailing@gmail.com  for more information. 

Self Serve will also continue with their wonderful and varied education. Contact Self Serve at: 505 265 5815

The Wet Munch is every other week. Yours truly provides the education piece. It is a delightful spot to come, meet new people, and network. Join the group on Fetlife: Albuquerque Wet-Munch

NMLL is ongoing in their PHENOMENAL organization of Spring Pan and Leather Fiesta.  Join their Fetlife group: New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More



And the Daddies, ABOL, as always, provide that man space that is so critical to today and every day.

Here is the other powerful thing, if none of these groups work for you- MAKE YOUR OWN.

Today’s BDSM isn’t about the closet door- secret handshake- must know someone who will vouch for you- before you even get to see a flogger. Today’s BDSM is full possibility, with only the restrictions that you put on you.


Friday, December 4, 2015


The last few months over here at Casa De Oso have been really interesting. So much has happened since October 1st it has left me dizzy. All of it really good, the fundraisers, Leather Fiesta, My Loves birthday, all good. 

And then I had this thing happen. Like an  "aha" moment.

I was at Porn-a-topia the night that my slave was performing. There was a discussion of what happens when someones sex drive drops, and how do they get it back. The discussion was really good. And it got me thinking about so much of what is going on in my life right now. 

I have been asking myself some very tough questions.  

The biggest, most complicated of which is “where is my engagement?”

When we lived in Tijeras our lives where so difficult that I turned to serving the community. It was one of the things that truly made me feel like I had a purpose, and that I wasn’t a failure. That community involvement kept me as sane as I could be at that time. 

But now things are different. 

And even  though  things are different, I am  finding that my coping skills are  not changing. I find myself driving myself just as hard as I was before and using community service to  buffer dealing with  "me" and "my life".
So  what I finally realized is that I am changing, and that my community engagement has in some places taken priority over my home engagement. 

 I want that to change. No- that has to change. 
It does not mean  that I will  stop  doing what I am already doing-  my blog, education  at the Wet Munch, talking with  people, teaching and speaking  when I am asked to.  And I will  always be "at the ready" for the titleholders as my services as Den  Bear are available throughout their title year.  

But it is going to mean a lot of other things. First, I need to be home more.  That means meeting with less people, doing less coffees, and dinners. 

Then it means taking the time that I do have at home and making it mean something. More play, more sex, more time that I am present with my slave. 

The “present” part is where it is really important. Not just being home, but being really "in the moment" with and for her.  

So those are the things that I am working on right now. It is a really hard adjustment for me. I love my community. 

But I think that my community service has to be balanced out with my life more constructively

Right now my community service  needs to  take a back  burner as I struggle with  getting my head on right,  with  re engaging in  the woman  in my life that gives it meaning, with the animals, and with  the home that I am lovingly surrounded by. 

In many ways re engaging in my slave, home, and life is so much more risky then engaging in community. It means being truly bare.  
It will  have to  be done in small  steps. To be endeavored in  a way  that I know that I can not just do  but continue. I know that I won’t be able to do it all at once. 

But I am taking on small things at home as I can. 

It will be a journey and not a destination. 

I think it’s time.      

I think I am ready.

Friday, November 27, 2015

LIfe with Moishe

About two months ago I went out to feed the horses and I find a bony hair covered thing that turned out to be a puppy tearing up our trash, desperately searching for something to eat. I don’t move towards him, but I called to him to see what would happen. 

At first he gave a little puppy bark, and then he came right over all tail and tongue. I picked him up, he was starving. Then I took him inside and presented him to my slave. I guess we had been adopted. 

 Three days later I took him to our amazing and stunning vet. She assessed him, gave him shots and then checked him for a chip. My heart literally hit the floor when we found that he was chipped.  

 It had been three days of rearranging our lives, but something about him, and the bond had already began to take hold. She called the chip company, the pup was unnamed but the owner had a name, and a phone number. They called him; he refused to relinquish the pup. I even talked to him. His disinterest and irritation came clear across the lines, but he wanted the pup back. He sounded high  as a kite.

So with a heavy heart I welled up in tears and turned the pup over to the vet so that the other owner could come and get him. I left confused, hurt, and full of emotion that I didn’t understand. Five hours later I get a call for my amazing and stunning vet and she explained that the family had not come to claim him. She contacted animal control about the pup’s condition and that he was still there if I still wanted him. 

Only one caveat- the family had up to two weeks to go through animal control and get him back. So I had a choice. 

One- I could take him home and wait for the call from animal control.

Or two I could turn him over to the pound and be the first contacted if he wasn’t claimed. 

I was torn.

It just so happens that I was having lunch with my leather family when this call came through. I asked them what they would do. They didn’t even pause, take him home and give him a good start. The pound is a miserable place for pups, so even if I lose him I will know that I did everything I could.

I took their advice. I went right to the stunning and amazing vets office and got his wiggly, skinny, hairy tail and tongue. The vet did leave me with one thing that helped a lot. She had notified animal control about the condition of the pup, and it just so happens that the chip information stated that the owner lived in Albuquerque.  So  the animal  control officer said that there would have to  be a really good reason  why a 4 month  old puppy got two  cities away from  home.    

So we waited. It was rough at first, but over time things got easier. We fell into a routine and before I knew it I called the animal control officer, and he relinquished the puppy to me. 

So  I excitedly called the chip  company where I was informed by them that they would not turn  the chip  over into  my name until THEY had attempted to  contact the owner,  and I had to  wait another  30 days. I tried to explain that this was a case where the puppy had already been handed over by animal control but they did not budge. It was policy.  

 Again I called animal control and he asked me what my expenses were. I said  about 100$ or so. And he said that he could contact the owner and let him know that to reclaim the pup I would need to be reimbursed. Sounds like a good plan.

So the previous owner never did respond. And 30 days passed, and when  I called the chip company the pup had been turned over in our names. It was official, he was ours. 

I have waited all this time to get him a collar. Well- not true, he had one and he chewed it off.  

So now I get him his officially collar tags and all. 

What has touched my deeply is that we go  walking, him and I. And I had no idea big that hole in my heart was until this. I still miss my Bo. But I talk to Moishe about him. 

And on some days, I think he is right there with us- walking along. 

(So  oddly enough-  Moishe is a relly good puppy.  The one time that we left him  alone as a trial  run well.... see for yourself)