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I am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information!
The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!

If you are interested in power munches, skills workshops or play parties in the Albuquerque area please contact the 20 year organization of AEL at:


If you are interested in active online community please find:


Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:

Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers

Albuquerque Kinksters

KinkySpot Clubhouse

Albuquerque Master/slave forum

New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

"HOW TO" Hospital Etiquette

Hello all. Last week I was in the hospital with kidney stones, I have never had those before. I went in  for surgery on  Thursday  for stent placement but did not do  well on  the table so  they quit early and got me back  up to  my room. Overall I was there from Wednesday night until Saturday afternoon. Everyone in the hospital was amazing. Most people knew me so they took extra special care of me.  It was intense, and very difficult.  I have never had an experience like this; I have never had surgery, much less emergent surgery.   

As I was being visited by some people some things became really apparent. When someone that a person  cares about is in  the hospital people don’t know how to  act or what to  say, so sometimes they unintentionally make things more difficult for the persons who  is ill.

So I am writing this to give you all a “HOW TO” visit someone in the hospital.

So to start my slave did not let anyone know about the event for a few reasons, one our phone completely died and once it dies it takes 3 hours of continuous charge just to turn it on. Two  she was so  deeply overwhelmed and terrified by what I  was going through  that she was out of her mind with  fear, and three) I was her only focus.

So people that found out after the fact that are upset that they were not contacted need to stop. Your frustration over not being called is not helping. Even though I am out of the hospital and home my slave is still going through waves of fear.  she says that she flashes back  to  me being in  the hospital  bed in pain, or the ambulance driving away  with  me as she was forced to  follow me to  the emergency room  and not speed. Although we both understand your feelings- right now it isn’t about you.

Secondly- unless you are given permission from the people in the hospital to tell others, please don’t. Once the word was out the phone at the hospital blew up. So while my slave was out running errands  she couldn’t get through to me. This sent her into a panic.  I know that people meant well, but it can tie up communication. And for people like us who only own one cell phone the hospital phone was how she needed to reach me.  

Thirdly- if you come to visit. Please keep the conversation/ visit short and focused on the patient. Conversations take energy, and if the person that comes to visit is self focused as in ----talking about their problems, or asking something from the sick individual then the visit becomes more of a drain then an uplifting thing. 

I know that my visitors meant well, but I was literally exhausted when they left. I had to  pay attention to  them, I had to  engage in and listen to  their problems, and in  some cases, actually had to  ask  them  to  table personal requests from  me.  If you visit someone in the hospital- PUT YOURSELF ASIDE for the 5 minutes that you are there. 

Talk to them about them, invest in them. Otherwise all that you are doing is making it more difficult and tiring FOR THE PERSON who is ILL.

Fourth- please watch for oxygen and IV lines.  Be careful not to grab hands or arms without looking first. IV’s even when they are in place can hurt so please when you lovingly grab someone’s hand LOOK FIRST.

I am trying to be OK with everything that has happened here. 

Wednesday night on the way to   the hospital we had to stop over on the side of the highway and call 911 for the ambulance to come get me. I was in the emergency room for about 12 hours, of that time the pain was unreal. I vaguely remember my whole body shaking and bucking. I maxed out on pain meds and had to try to talk myself through the next 15 minutes, and then the next 15 minutes. Thursday I went in for surgery, Friday I was out of it and tired. By Saturday I was kind of coming back into myself, but I was so unbelievably tired. Small things wiped me out, like walking to the bathroom, or pulling myself up in the bed. I don’t remember the ride home, or Sunday. But I know that they happened.

So thank you to all who tried to bring comfort. I am slowly recovering, I am tired a lot. I have to go back in for more surgery once the infection passes, but my Dr rocks. 

What I ask is that if you are reading this please really look inside of yourself. If you are not able to focus on someone else for a quick 5 minutes, please don’t come, just write a nice FB or Fet note. It will do a lot more good.  

My slave is emotionally exhausted. she is beyond not OK at the moment. So please if you can’t be here to support her or me, just step back. We won’t mind. We can’t comfort you right now.  We can’t make this right for you right now. We aren’t in a place where we can explain, justify, or give right now. Please understand it isn’t personal. We are just needing to  be OK. 

Saturday, June 20, 2015

I am back home

I am  back  home. Bruised, hurty, and  tired.

I am  a little in shock.

A little overwhelmed.

And I just need some time to  get  my head together. 

I am  scared down  deep.  I have a slow ache in my side , I hope that it will  pass.

Thank you  all  for your well  wishes.

 This happened so  fast. 


Friday, June 12, 2015


So it has been requested that I put in an addendum  to  my blog that I wrote about from the play party fundraiser for Shelby Sue. It was pointed out to  me that the amazing Ninjet was sorely overlooked in my writing.   
I agreed!  So thank you to Ninjet! She was our amazing pole dancer. She did a routine to Rihanna’s song S&M. 
First we were having a little technical difficulty, and Ninjet was warming up while the entire crowd was watching!  Even though it took some time, she kept the crowd entertained the whole time. I did point out that you could tell  the difference between  the s types and the D types, as h s types were waiting patiently and the D types were loosing their SHIT from  impatience! 

When the music started Ninjet WOWED and amazed the room! Her abilities were stunning and breath taking! Up  and down  that pole like it was  a ladder, her whole body was vibrating and doing …THINGS!!! I still cant believe what I saw her butt do!!!!She was right side up, up side down, twirling around that pole, and the most amazing thing-  she could just stop  herself MID POLE and suspend from  there!!!!  

I ran out of one dollar bills so fast! Thank you Vlad for supplying my habit!  

For those of you that missed her dancing, and her amazing second round here you go:

AND THANK YOU AGAIN TO J  for giving his permission to  Ninjet for this amazing display of her talent!   

Friday, June 5, 2015


Last Saturday was the AEL/AMG fundraiser for Shelby Sue. It was EPIC. I mean EPIC. There is nothing that gives me more goose bumps then when this community comes together for a greater cause, as in something bigger than us. 

The host house of Vlad and M was amazing. First off they live in a massive home, as far as I am concerned it is a mansion!   And they have this deliciously sprawling garden, and whenever I went to them with questions it was always “yes, ok we can do that”. So working with them was so easy it shouldered the weight of the event! 

Then the RSVP’s started coming in. We decided to cap the RSVP’s at 90, which quickly filled AND left us with a waiting list. Luckily the people that had to bow out at the last minute let us know so the people on the waiting list had a chance to get in! At first I was very overwhelmed; this was 90 people that for the most part I did not know. 

I felt responsible for and to the host house in regards to keeping their place safe and making sure that there was no trouble. So the idea of 90 people, and quite frankly the amount of trouble that just a handful of people can bring, had my palms sweaty. 

The night of the event we showed up with the equipment on lesbo time, yep 10 minutes late. And both my slave and I hit the ground running. The chairs needed to put outside, the food needed to be prepped, the dungeon spaces needed to be set up, and that was just for starters. That first 45 minutes was a flurry of questions and activity. The intake table was set up and sure enough people arrived early. 

Before I knew it I was helping with the grill and the party was well on its way! I LOVE the crew that I work with! Jaime and Lori handled the two different raffles going on with GUSTO! 

Just Horns and ClareDeLune were GOD SENDS!! Just Horns was amazing! Not only did he lend us this beautiful Ninjet for the event, but all that I had to do was tell him where the dungeon equipment needed to go and he was on it! He just made it happen! The relief flooded through me. 

ClareDeLune jumped right in and got her hands dirty and THANK THE HEAVENS she was paying attention to our ice situation! She noticed that we were quite lacking and just took care of it. Just said “we are going” and made it happen. 


When everything was well under way I was busy with Vlad at the grill  and that was my time to relax and really get in the mood and enjoy myself. My slave was busy talking with people and getting people relaxed over by the table with the outside food, Jaime and Lori were hustling the raffle tickets, the intake table of D&E was working their asses off getting people signed in, and Ninjet had already set up and was practicing!

I got to hand out meat and announce “Put my Meat in your Mouth!”, “You need my meat in your mouth!”, “Come taste Vlad’s weenie! HOT AND READY!!” “Come get Vlad’s Weenies, community weenie!!!! HOT AND DRPPING!!!”  “Hot Meat, like a good woman wet and ready!” When the meat needed more time to cook and there was a line waiting  I started to  say “Like a good woman, it won’t be ready until  its time!” “Let me PUT VLADS WEINNER in your BUNS!”  It was so much fun!  Towards the end of the cookout I got to say “Last call for meat!” and the beautiful G added “Has it been 4 hours already???” I died laughing! 

After the cookout Jaime and Lori took over with the raffle drawings. I love how they do that, how they make the raffle about all of us. There were two items with fixed raffle ticket prices, and then another 4 or 5 items where done Bozo style.  In honor of the pup Bozo, no matter how much money you have or don’t have, you get tickets. Everyone plays, everyone has a chance. 

In a stroke of genius Jaime and Lori started having those that had given the prizes come up and pick the winning tickets. Those that had given so much of themselves in the raffle donations got to be the ones that awarded them out. They started this later in the raffle drawings, but I think it needs to be all the time; it was another amazing idea from amazing people. 

Afterwards Vlad took a panoramic pic of all of the people that had come, just for Shelby Sue. I made him take one of himself to send her as well!  After that was the play and then the real work started! I had little time to talk to others as I circulated and watched the play. That is where things can  get dicey, people “pushing the boundaries” if they don’t see a DM, people that aren’t safe players to  begin  with, people getting overly excited and out of hand. 

Here is the thing that blew me away- NONE of that happened. Everyone was beautifully playing, wonderfully respectful, and it just made me smile. 

I felt so good about what was going on that I let my guard down and got the chance to play myself.
This night was epic.
It was beautiful.

And  that night this community brought in more then  2100.00$ for Shelby Sue.

Thank you to everyone who came, gave your time, money and love. Thank you to everyone whose work made this possible, who saw what needed to be done and made it happen. 

I am in AWE.

Monday, June 1, 2015

For your Pleasure THIS TUESDAY NIGHT!

Hello All!

 I have started going to Pool night when I can go and I love it!
 This Tuesday my slave has to  drop off some deliveries and will have some extra stuff for sale if anyone want to  purchase her wares!

This is not a part of Pool night, this is just a one time thing that we are doing :)   

Pool night is at the Billiard Palace off of Manual and Wyoming, she will be out front, and here is what she has available:

 bath  pies for 7$

  bath  cupcakes for 6$

love drawing oils one ounce for 15$-  that is a magical  formula 

All  lotion bars   (all  below pics)  are 5$ a piece