I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+us

I am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information!
The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!

If you are interested in power munches, skills workshops or play parties in the Albuquerque area please contact the 20 year organization of AEL at:


If you are interested in active online community please find:


Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:

Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers

Albuquerque Kinksters

KinkySpot Clubhouse

Albuquerque Master/slave forum

New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More

Friday, January 25, 2013

AEL kicking ass this weekend!

This cough is still kickin my ass Big TIME! I am in a Nyquil coma that not only   keeps me in bed but  makes everything have pretty pretty colors...... That aside, there is much going in the way of AEL this week!
On Sunday there is AEl Kinkskills,  I am  so  excited to have Sera Miles from NMFL:

“The Art of Storytelling: Incorporating Fantasy Tales into Your Play”
We grow up telling stories--in fact, some scientists and linguists wager that the desire to create and tell stories is a critical part of what makes us human. How, then, could storytelling increase the intensity of your play? In this workshop, we'll discuss the building blocks of spinning a yarn and delve into how storytelling-as-play could work with a partner who is sensory deprived and/or bound. We'll also consider how storytelling can add erotic intimacy to a long distance relationship. How do you know what story to tell? What do you do if you can't finish the story? Learn how to troubleshoot the art of storytelling just as you would any other play technique. Best of all, learn how your words and voice can amplify every scene you create. Your mind and imagination has long been in your toy kit—now, let’s add your voice.

The class will run from 2-4pm on Sunday Jan 27th, and is only $5 per
person. Everyone is encouraged to bring a blindfold and cuffs.

As space is limited, please RSVP to aelmailing@gmail.com as soon as possible to assure your place
in the workshop. 

 And on Monday the 28th my slave and I will be presenting  at AEL here is the blurb!!
The PowerMunch will be on the 28th. This month we have, back by popular demand, BearDyke and Squishybrowngrrl presenting their workshop entitled Butch/femme 101! The presentation will cover their journeys in lesbian identity, butch/femme history in North America, and the care and feeding of your butch/femme friends. We hope that you can join us for the munch, and a presentation that is sure to be awesome!

The dinner begins at 7pm at in the private room of the Golden Corral restaurant located at 5207 San Mateo NE. The restaurant is Mcleod and Osuna, on the west side of the road. While there is no charge for the workshop, everyone in attendance must order a meal in exchange for Golden Corral giving us a private room. When you arrive, please inform the cashier that you are with AEL, and you will receive a special discount! Take care and we will be looking forward to seeing you all on Monday.

Honestly-  we both  feel like shit on a stick, and would love any and all support for this weekend.  



Friday, January 18, 2013

Sick and PIssed and in Awe

I am  so  sick right now, and I have been for more than two weeks. It's this DAMN  head cold that has me like some sort of gremlin and is wrestling my head and throat and body to the ground with  its mucousy grasp!!!!

 My poor slave is just as bad off as I am. So we are taking turns taking care of each other, depending on who has more strength at that moment.

I am pissed because so much life happens when I am stuck in that damn bed. I missed two amazing events' that I had been  looking forward to for weeks!!  Seriously, my boxer's were wet with anticipation and everything!  I missed out on having coffee with a great friend and then hopping across town to  playpool  with  an amazing and fascinating  woman.  I also missed going to the aquarium and being able to hold my love and watch the Dork  fish.  I love going to the aquarium just for this one fish!!!!  She loves  it to!!!!!! Every time we see it  we say  "I'm  a dork fish!"  ( Look  it makes sense to us ok?!?!?!)

If this illness continues,  I will be missing out on being able to take pictures, going to a play party, having coffee with my leather brother,  and two  more dinners with  friends.  

What the FUCK?


  However,  I am just as in awe of my slave as I am pissed at being sick.  She has been  absolutely amazing even  though she is fighting body aches, nausea, fatigue,  and weakness. She has gotten up at 2 am  to make me soup more then once. She has driven me into town at 6 am for more medicine, all the while driving down the mountain  on iced and  snowy roads.  She has  watched over my cough She has brought me hot tea and  soup  (made special just the way I like it!) around the clock.

She has never once complained, never once said, "no. Never once has she said that she couldn't take care of me. She has me made me feel  so loved and so safe.

I am in  awe and amazed and very much  feeling blessed that she is in my life. Not only does she serve, but she loves me when she does it.
I have no words for what she has done for me over the past few days, I only have utter gratefulness and love.



Friday, January 11, 2013

Goals for Mastery

A few weeks back a friend of mine asked “What are the goals for your Mastery?”

 At this point two things came to mind:  
 one     “what a cool question!"     
and two  “Oh shit- should I have goals for my Mastery?”

So I had to ponder that for a while, and I realized a few things. I used to have goals for my Mastery, but once my slave and I were up and running I got really comfortable and didn’t focus on  them as much. Which brought me to:  how are goals for my Mastery separate from  expectations from my slave and lastly if I were to  have goals now, what would they be?

In the beginning of our relationship I had a lot of goals that defined our relationship as Master and slave. The goals were based in tasks, how I requested a task, how I felt requesting it, how I followed up on it and most importantly how my slave executed those tasks.  All of this gave me a sense of where I was in my Mastery as well as were I wanted to go. 

For example:  do I ask for something with an air or impatience, gratitude, or expectant?  How did I feel using each way of asking for something? Was it representing the type of Master that I wanted to be? Did I want to be an inpatient Master, a  grateful one, or an expectant one?  Was it bringing me closer or further away from my own personal goals? 
Afterwards how did  I follow up, did I want to use punishments and/ or rewards? If so how and when and what?  

Then the biggie, how was my slave doing?  Because that to me was the biggest reflection on my Mastery, was she learning ? Was she getting more confident? Was she following thorough and becoming more independent? Was she challenging herself and following through with even the difficult requests? 

So in the beginning I think it was easier to have goals for my Mastery because they related so closely to what my slave was doing. But over time, as life moved on and  we integrated our Master and slave relationship so thoroughly, I stopped focusing on my personal goals for Mastery and started focusing on other things. Although the M/s component of our life has remained central to our relationship, I think that I have gotten a little lazy and let all of my goals fall on the shoulders of my slave  instead of thinking about my personal goals for my Mastery without her. 

Since a lot of Mastery is socially recognized as the slaves performance, it is really difficult to think about what my goals could be that did not require more tasks  form my salve, and yet would still give me that sense of empowerment.

At first I did come up with three things that I felt it had let go that I really wanted back  for my sense of power.  Unfortunately these  tasks  did require more things from my slave. So I decided to ask for two out of three, since she already has that 24/7 no holiday or weekends or hazard pay job, and trust me I am not easy to live with.

But after thinking about it for a while I found that I did want  something for and from myself. I want to be a stronger organizer and leader.  I want to have stronger leadership social skills, and be able to be fair and   open. I want to be a more skilled player with more skills and  that includes being better at the ones that I do have.  I want to be able to be calm, quiet, and strong. I want to be able to listen without as much bias to other peoples journeys and be candid about my own.

OK- maybe with as much bias, but I do want to be less conspicuous about it!

At that point I stopped the list, because quite frankly it is much easier to base my Mastery on my slaves behavior then it is to work on mine. And she is prettier to watch to….

So I have some questions for you all out there:

What are your goals for your Mastery that does not require any more work for your slave? 

How  will you be a stronger Master at the end of 2013 than you were at the end of 2012- that is without running your slave or submissive into the ground?

And Finally: 

How have your goals for your Mastery changed over time?

Saturday, January 5, 2013

New Years Omens!

Happy New Years everyone!  I love New Years it is my favorite holiday that has a lot of emotional and spiritual significance for me. How I  spend that 48 hours sends so many clues as to what  the new year will hold, and so far it is looking pretty amazing! 
To give you some idea-  

We had a lot of love, laughter,   and amazing sex on new years eve, and we were on time everywhere we went!  

That night we were surrounded by our chosen family, and talked and had a blast! 

The food was incredible!  We went to route 66 and had crab legs and prime rib, and the flan    ohhhhhh,, the flan..... I am  still drooling over it!  

We danced to a wonderful live band, and though a series of weird events we ended up separated from our family for the ring in of the new year. My slave and I gazed at each other and talked and kissed and took in that very incredible moment when the clock hit midnight.  It was very intense and very emotional for both of us.

Afterwards we met up with our family and danced some more!

We left for home around one or so.

And New Years day we got up and had lunch with  a good friend-  for 4 hours!!! 

Again the food was incredible!  And we were on time.

So with all of these good omens-  I am really looking forward to 2013.

Good food, being on time, sex, love and laughter, chosen family and being able to really hold our ground.

(Honestly though-  if the New Year boils down to sex and crab legs,  I am OK with that to!!) 

What were your omens for this year?

I hope they are loving ones!