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Leather Bear Tails is about the leather journey of my slave and I. It deals with all parts of the leather and BDSM experience from safety to predators, to skills, and all of the lovely mistakes that she and I make along the way!!
Also!! I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it can be found for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html
I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html
Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+us I am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information! The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!
If you are interested in power munches, skills workshops or play parties in the Albuquerque area please contact the 20 year organization of AEL at:
If you are interested in active online community please find:
Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:
Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers
Albuquerque Master/slave forum
New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More
February 3rd from 8pm -12at the NM Clubhouse.
Please RSVP for the
address. Dress code:
street legal to the door
20$ per person at the door and a potluck
go to the new furnace for Corset Lady and her family.
is also a RAFFLE!
donations from your community (including a basket from Laughing Goddess Magickal
Apothecary) and the grand prize of an UNDER BUST CORSET!
announced on February 6th. You do NOT need to be present to win!
tickets or to RSVP to this event please contact Jinx on Fetlife under:
Or through her email:firstname.lastname@example.org
This is a 21+ event, but ANYONE can buy raffle
The Corset Lady and her family have tirelessly
supported this community for many many years. They have donated countless corsets
as well as represented this community nationwide.If you aren’t able to make the event, please contact
Jinx for tickets!
ALSO: Saturday February 4th!!!!
“When we support each other, everyone is stronger”
Over the last few years we have had a lot of losses in our community. Take this moment and call your loved ones. Tell them you love them. When you see them next, let that hug remain a little longer. Take this moment now to give blessings to those left in this physical world, as we grieve those outside it.
hear the phrase “don’t yuck my yum” when I lived in Florida, or for the first
few years I was here in Albuquerque. The
first time I really started hearing it repeatedly and consistently was from
NMFL (New Mexico FetLifers) a few years ago. The idea is to not downplay or ridicule someone
else’s desires just because they are different from yours. Since then this
concept has grown to be a part of our culture. I positive, powerful, and daily
part of our understanding of one another.
until I was having a recent conversation with a newbie that the depth of this
phrase truly hit me. Don’t “yuck my yum”
isn’t about just “live and let live”, it is greater than that. It is a responsibility
that people that have been doing BDSM a while have to the new people to
encourage and support where they are.
my yum” is not passive. It is a call to action, and not an easy one.
through their beginner years is a tough challenge.They may get withpeoplethat you view are dangerous for them,they may pickupand completely fallinlove
with a skillthat you feel is beyond
them , or they may be moving soslow that you find it hard tobe there for them.But all of this is "don’t yuck my yum".
their choice of friends or play partners. It is who they are drawn to. I believe
that many times they need those experiences to be able to make better decisions
in the future.We, as more experienced
players feel the need to yuck on this. We call it guiding and protecting them.But in reality we aren’t.We are making decisions for them that they need
to make themselves.This is about their path-
We may find
a need to yuck that skill that the newbie is absolutely mesmerized by. Especially if it is a really advanced one. However, by supporting them through it and
putting your own opinions aside, it makes them a more confident and possibly skilled
player. Again the focus is on them. Not yucking that deep down yum they just
felt when they picked up that toy. The only way ANYONE will ever get better with
any toy, at any time, is practice. A newbie that falls in love with the single
tail on their first day, GREAT! Teach them how to be safe, instead of trying to
talk them out of it.Support the YUM.
Letting themgoat their ownpace,being available toanswer their questions,but not pushing themtobe
what they cant be at that moment, whether that be faster or slower. This is all about supporting those amazing
first few months of yum and self discovery.That is the same as pushing people into a role that they don’t really
want to be in. Let them yum in a way that works for them.
It is a delicate balance between pushing them
to realize the potential that you see in them, and respecting where they need
Not yucking someone’s
yum is much more than just saying “ok if that works for you”. It is about
hearing and seeing things that you may disagree with, then putting your own
self aside and assessing whether your yuck is really valuable to them, or
simply your opinion.
I had one of those moments, one of those life changing moments. I have been waiting for that moment for years. I was having dinner with
whom I affectionately call “War” and the two amazing Corazon 2016 titleholders.We were hashing out the plans for a fundraiser
coming up on February 11th.
It was a
deep joy to sit back and watch them. As questions were asked they would discuss,
contact people on their phones, and voice their opinions and needs candidly.I amused torunning stuff by myself
so I amnotreally good atcollaboration, as Warhas the unfortunate job of reminding me.So really taking in what they have to say,
trying to not just listen, but truly hear them, was my goal.
I loved that
they all run in different crowds, their contact lists were different than mine.
I have my go to's and my stand by's, and they did to. The ideas, the questions,
the challenges all reflected how deeply vested they were in this community.Not just representing it but raising it
up.I challenged themby asking for new people,whohaven’t
they seenperform ,or do muchpublically , that would be fun tosee?
I got silence, but that was
OK. It was the start of thinking about the future.
looking at those around them as the next wave of who can organize, perform, and
teach.I will push them more on that in
the future.To find and believe in the
corners, push those people into the light, and watch them shine..
At the end
of the night, we all expressed how incredibly excited we all are, and then as
we all stood up to walk out, it happened.
young full of energy beauties started out first. As my achy, rickety ass and
War followed behind them.I was trying to
walk without tipping over and keep my dignity when War elbowed me. She nodded
forward and said “look.” I looked up and in front of me there they were.
titleholders walking side by side.It
was that moment that I saw the future of this community right before my eyes.
And it was glorious.
I felt such a
deep swell of pride and contentment.