I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+us

I am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information!
The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!

If you are interested in power munches, skills workshops or play parties in the Albuquerque area please contact the 20 year organization of AEL at:


If you are interested in active online community please find:


Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:

Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers

Albuquerque Kinksters

KinkySpot Clubhouse

Albuquerque Master/slave forum

New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More

Sunday, January 29, 2017

“When we support each other, everyone is stronger”


Saturday February 3rd from 8pm -12   at the NM Clubhouse. 

Please RSVP for the address.  
Dress code: street legal to the door

20$ per person at the door and a potluck item.  

All proceeds go to the new furnace for Corset Lady and her family. 

There is also a RAFFLE! 

Featuring donations from your community (including a basket from Laughing Goddess Magickal Apothecary) and the grand prize of an UNDER BUST CORSET! 

Winner announced on February 6th. You do NOT need to be present to win!

For tickets or to RSVP to this event please contact Jinx on Fetlife under: 


 Or through her email:   mewmewbellbell@gmail.com

This is a 21+ event, but ANYONE can buy raffle tickets!

The Corset Lady and her family have tirelessly supported this community for many many years. They have donated countless corsets as well as represented this community nationwide.  If you aren’t able to make the event, please contact Jinx for tickets! 


Saturday February 4th!!!!

“When we support each other, everyone is stronger”

Thursday, January 26, 2017

In Remembrance


                                     WE love you.

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                                     WE mourn  you.

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                                YOU  will always remain in  our hearts

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Over the last few years we have had a lot of losses in  our community.  Take this moment and call  your loved ones.
Tell  them  you love them.  
When you see them  next,  let that hug remain  a little longer. 
Take this moment now to  give blessings to  those left in  this physical  world, as we grieve those outside it.  

Friday, January 20, 2017

don’t yuck my yum

I didn’t hear the phrase “don’t yuck my yum” when I lived in Florida, or for the first few years I was here in Albuquerque.  The first time I really started hearing it repeatedly and consistently was from NMFL (New Mexico FetLifers) a few years ago.  The idea is to not downplay or ridicule someone else’s desires just because they are different from yours. Since then this concept has grown to be a part of our culture. I positive, powerful, and daily part of our understanding of one another.   

It wasn’t until I was having a recent conversation with a newbie that the depth of this phrase truly hit me.  Don’t “yuck my yum” isn’t about just “live and let live”, it is greater than that. It is a responsibility that people that have been doing BDSM a while have to the new people to encourage and support where they are.  

Don’t “yuck my yum” is not passive. It is a call to action, and not an easy one.  

Supporting someone through their beginner years is a tough challenge.  They may get with  people  that you view are dangerous for them,  they may pick  up  and completely fall  in  love with a skill  that you feel is beyond them , or  they may be moving so  slow that you find it hard to  be there for them.  But all of this is "don’t yuck my yum". 

Don’t yuck their choice of friends or play partners. It is who they are drawn to. I believe that many times they need those experiences to be able to make better decisions in the future.  We, as more experienced players feel the need to yuck on this. We call it guiding and protecting them.  But in reality we aren’t.  We are making decisions for them that they need to make themselves.  This is about their path- not ours. 

We may find a need to yuck that skill that the newbie is absolutely mesmerized by.  Especially if it is a really advanced one.  However, by supporting them through it and putting your own opinions aside, it makes them a more confident and possibly skilled player. Again the focus is on them. Not yucking that deep down yum they just felt when they picked up that toy. The only way ANYONE will ever get better with any toy, at any time, is practice. A newbie that falls in love with the single tail on their first day, GREAT! Teach them how to be safe, instead of trying to talk them out of it.  Support the YUM.

 Letting them  go  at their own  pace,  being available  to  answer their questions,  but not pushing them  to  be what they cant be at that moment, whether that be faster or slower.  This is all about supporting those amazing first few months of yum and self discovery.  That is the same as pushing people into a role that they don’t really want to be in. Let them yum in a way that works for them.  

 It is a delicate balance between pushing them to realize the potential that you see in them, and respecting where they need to be.  

Not yucking someone’s yum is much more than just saying “ok if that works for you”. It is about hearing and seeing things that you may disagree with, then putting your own self aside and assessing whether your yuck is really valuable to them, or simply your opinion.

Its work and the hard kind at that. 

Friday, January 13, 2017

one of those moments

Last Tuesday I had one of those moments, one of those life changing moments.  I have been waiting for that moment for years. I was having dinner with whom I affectionately call “War” and the two amazing Corazon 2016 titleholders.  We were hashing out the plans for a fundraiser coming up on February 11th

It was a deep joy to sit back and watch them. As questions were asked they would discuss, contact people on their phones, and voice their opinions and needs candidly.  I am  used to  running stuff by myself so I am  not  really good at  collaboration, as War  has the unfortunate job of reminding me.  So really taking in what they have to say, trying to not just listen, but truly hear them, was my goal.

I loved that they all run in different crowds, their contact lists were different than mine. I have my go to's and my stand by's, and they did to. The ideas, the questions, the challenges all reflected how deeply vested they were in this community.  Not just representing it but raising it up.  I challenged them  by asking for new people,  who  haven’t they seen  perform ,  or do much  publically , that would be fun to  see?  

 I got silence, but that was OK. It was the start of thinking about the future.

Thinking of looking at those around them as the next wave of who can organize, perform, and teach.  I will push them more on that in the future.  To find and believe in the corners, push those people into the light, and watch them shine..  

At the end of the night, we all expressed how incredibly excited we all are, and then as we all stood up to walk out, it happened.  

The two young full of energy beauties started out first. As my achy, rickety ass and War followed behind them.  I was trying to walk without tipping over and keep my dignity when War elbowed me. She nodded forward and said “look.” I looked up and in front of me there they were. 

The two titleholders walking side by side.  It was that moment that I saw the future of this community right before my eyes. And it was glorious. 
I felt such a deep swell of pride and contentment.  

We, us, all of us, we are going to be just fine. 

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