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Leather Bear Tails is about the leather journey of my slave and I. It deals with all parts of the leather and BDSM experience from safety to predators, to skills, and all of the lovely mistakes that she and I make along the way!!
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I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html
Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+us I am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information! The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!
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Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers
Albuquerque Master/slave forum
New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More
Friday, June 29, 2012
SSC, RACK, PRICK, suck my........
A few weeks back my amazing slave did a presentation at
PERV. She was brilliant, and I will be
posting her notes for those that missed her speak! That aside,
the first hour of PERV the leaders go over rules, concepts, and social
graces that new people need to know, it is like a quickie 101 class that covers
Something that they cover
are the concepts of SSC, RACK, and PRICK.
Which are acronyms that have been used in the community for years to co
notate safety and what makes BDSM, fetish and kink separate from
SSC is the oldest term. It means safe, sane and consensual.
People that disagreed with SSC came up with RACK which means risk aware consensual
People that disagreed with that came up
with PRICK which means personal responsibility, informed consensual kink.
So here are my thoughts…..
First off PRICK is misogynistic, and non inclusive. What about
having an acronym for safety not based on male genitalia? How about CLIT? I also strongly believe that
a person can’t always be informed. How can you be informed about how you will respond
as a top or a bottom to a new type of play that you have never done before?
You may be informed on the technique- but the emotional response takes on a
life of its own. How can you be
personally aware of a disease process that you have if it hasn’t manifested
itself? And avoid those certain types of play that are dangerous to do? (For example- a
person with a fluid restriction or congestive heart failure, or high blood pressure should not do saline injections.
Breath play and reactive airway disease --RAD-
can be deadly, and genital
cutting and diabetes are a potentially castrating mix.) Also the use of the term Kink is extremely
exclusive. Many of us don’t view what we
do as kink, or kinky. There are many
that are strictly fetishist.
I know that this is a technicality of terms here -
but the word kink just doesn’t cover the very broad range of who we are and what
Leather isn’t my kink- it is
who I am, and who my slave is.
Then there is RACK. I go back to my previous points; first
off awareness of something a person has never done before is a fallacy. Just because a person is aware of the possible
physical tolls, does not mean that they are aware of the emotional ones. It also does not mean that what their bodies
once accepted, they can continue to accept. Being aware of the risks assumes
that you know your own risk. And that is not always possible. Again with the use of the word kink – that does
not include a massive amount of people in
Personally I like SSC. I know that the argument initially
was that what we do is not safe, and definitely not sane. I beg to differ.
What we do is safe within what we know at
this time. What I mean by that is--- new information about play is coming out
all of the time. Our safety is based in what we know now, and that may be different
then what we know five years from now. Twenty years ago it was considered safe
to tie someone up by their wrists, we (as in the community) know more about
joints and nerves now. Ten years ago cutting was done with betadine- now we know that betadine slows healing, so alcohol is sometimes the better choice. For that matter- the use of gloves did not come into fashion until just recently.....
As far as emotional
safety we go off of our own desire and our past experiences. Although we may
misjudge our responses at that time it does not mean that we are less responsible,
or less informed. It just means that we
strove for safety, and may have fell short.
As far as sane. If what we do is not sane, then does that
mean it is insane? What is more sane the recognizing who you are and then doing
something about it? What is more sane the negotiating pleasure and seeking
others that fit your desires? There is no negotiation with insanity, no reason,
no aftercare, no red-ing out.
Insanity is about disconnection for reality-
play is about the deepest connection to the reality that we have.
So in my opinion I say we return to SSC. It is easy to
remember, inclusive, and general enough to keep people talking. And that is
what it was supposed to do, keep people talking and thinking about what we are