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Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:

Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers

Albuquerque Kinksters

KinkySpot Clubhouse

Albuquerque Master/slave forum

New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More

Friday, September 13, 2013

One on One classes at Self Serve

Self Serve and I are doing a collective project of me teaching one on ones at the store. I am so excited about this. It is the opportunity for me to reach a different population. Such as people that can’t be public or are not comfortable coming into community for whatever reason but want to learn skills or about BDSM. Or maybe just want one on one attention  because they learn better that way.

I do have a one reservation though, to make it cost efficient for the store to do the lessons they will have to be a little pricey.  Also, I don’t feel right accepting money for one on one training, but my slave is really concerned that we will over extend ourselves by doing this, and wants us to take some for gas. My feeling is that whatever extra is made needs to go to charity. So this has become quite the discussion here. I know that she is right, that we aren’t financially stable enough to turn away gas money at this point, but I really feel that there are those that are hurting way worse than us and community service should come first. On the flip side- a person can’t do community service if they can’t get to where they are going, so it is something that I am wresting with.

But I am really excited about teaching these types of classes, getting really into the nitty gritty and having my salve teach as well. I love her insight and ability to really tune into people.

Currently I am, or rather we are, teaching a class a month or so at Self Serve. The next one is Tuesday September 10th on ‘finding your inner dominant.” Then in October I am doing BDSM basics on the 15th, and a flogging class on the 29th.

I love the finding your inner dominant class.  I love working with people and watching their confidence grow, their questions come out and the surprise on their faces when they make the crotch to dominance or crotch to submission connection. Lots of blushing and laughter!

 The BDSM basics is a new class that I am teaching, it is a combination of BDSM 101 and getting up and doing. Experimenting with blindfolds, bondage, toys around the store, or toys brought from home. The idea is to take the concept of BDSM 101 and make it interactive.  In my opinion BDSM is about doing and experiencing not about listening to someone talk about it. So I am curious to see how it goes.

The flogging class is always one of my favorites. It is such a challenge to teach because everyone has a different skill level. Meeting each person where they are and thinking about how to either break down what they are doing to start at a different place or at a slower pace, or take them to that next step through skill or movement or dealing with their emotions.

Honestly I never thought that I would be doing this. I never thought that I would be at a place where I would be teaching consistently and that I would be getting such wonderful   feedback.  This is like a dream come true! Also to be doing it with my slave by my side, watching how she is so skilled in her way, different then mine.

Wow. Just Wow.

How did I get so lucky?

I think it is possible that I just might have the best life ever.  Yep.


  1. Hmmm, good to know. I guess I'm going to need to specifically ask for the details tonight so I can start telling people what the deal is!

  2. Sounds great to me! I am really excited about this.