This last weekends events have been very tough on many.
As people have tried to voice how they feel, using words like- hurt, helpless, wounded, and scared- the behind the scenes violence has escalated.
People being bullied and threatened by people stoking the fires of anger and hate, and people are having their livelihoods threatened.
What actually took place on that stage at Fiesta is not the biggest issue.
It is the symptom much larger problem.
I am asking everyone to take a step back this weekend.
To please stop the death threats and the hate mail.
There is no reason for this.
We are all adults here, and everyone has a right to their feelings and position.
Personally attacking people, outing them to their jobs, and threatening people is NOT what we are about.
In BDSM do we not preach the tenets of OPEN, HONEST, and SAFE communication?
Do we not say to the newbies- if your BDSM partner stops you from talking, tells you how you should feel, and does not allow you to come to your community for help and understanding that they are in a dangerous situation?
So why are we doing this to each other?