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Friday, July 27, 2012
The blurred lines
slaves do a lot of amazing work. Some of it is very public and very visible. The community dinners, where the slave brings the Master their plate, the public play parties, the direct communication of the Master asking and the slave obeying, all of these things are a very direct away to reinforce the power exchange. These things are easy to see, easy to experience and easy to recognize not just for the people in the relationship but to those around them as well.
Then there is the work that the slave does at home. The more subtle stuff that actively speaks to and reinforces the dynamic specifically between the people involved, like the slave running the shower, washing the dishes, laying out the clothes.
Then there are those grey areas, which- for many people is the majority of life. The areas of service that are not so easy to see. These areas can be so blurry that even the Master and slave participating in them are sometimes left feeling conflicted.
Recently I have spoken to this very interesting Master who has been going through a rough patch with their health. The Master was not able to really take control of their house and the slave was assisting the Master with the ongoing Drs appointments, medication needs, and so on.
I listened intently, and it got me thinking.
It is during these times when the Master is at their weakest, and that the love, strength, and ability of the slave is at its most important, most crucial.
It is easy to have a power exchange that is visible when life if good. When money, play and sex are plentiful and the life within the house has a good stable rhythm, it is easy for a Master to take that power, and for the slave to give it.
But how often is life that predictable for that long?
This is where acts of service although through blurred lines, simply take on a different feel or look. However, service is still the undercurrent.
Just because the slave needs to take on a different set of duties that may not involve direct communication from the Master, or just because the slave needs to make more decisions independently does not mean that those decisions are not done in the heart or service and very much so with the Master in mind.
It can be hard to be in that place were as a Master you do not feel that you are able to run your household and dominate your slave like you think or feel that you should be able to do.
It brings up a lot of guilt about your identity, and how you think your slave must view you. As well as what you think that your slave deserves that you as the Master cannot provide.
In some ways service done through blurred lines will show what the slave is really vested in. Are they vested in that Master and the actual life service that the Master really needs? Or are they vested in service only when they are getting play, more visible dominance, and/ or sex in return?
And for the Masters out there, don’t be so quick to dismiss the acts of love and service that the slave is attempting to give. Sure it may not be naked in chains kneeling at our feet, but that would freak out the waiting room staff at the restaurant anyway.
Look at what your slave gives in real time as service that is life and love service. Service that is given with the same joy and passion and submission that taking a beating, or servicing you sexually brings.
Sure it may be a little hard to compare picking up medications to a giving a blow job, but to a slave that serves out of love, the end result of keeping the Master healthy and happy is the same.