I don't like going to BDSM 101 classes. Every BDSM 101 class that I have been too has
been an exercise in keeping my eyes open, and although the information is still
relevant and important, it makes me sleepy. Even though I feel that BDSM 101 classes are
critical to have consistently available, I haven’t ever been to one that made
me excited about BDSM and left me wanting more. So when I was approached by
Self Serve to teach a BDSM 101 class, I cringed a little on the inside. At
first I accepted because I believe that the class is really important to have,
and Self serve reaches a sect of people that are either not in community, or
can’t be in community for whatever reason. But as the Self Serve team and I
were talking, they brought up the idea of having it be taught as an interactive
class.
That is when I started to get excited and my juices got
flowing. I thought- yea, why not? Why can’t
a BDSM 101 class be hands on? After all BDSM is about the experience, which can
only be achieved by doing, and how better to get people excited about the possibilities
of BDSM then giving them some hands on?
So I thought about it for a few days and came up with a do
able workshop that I thought could go over well, and prepped for the upcoming
class. I was so nervous; this could easily go a few ways that maybe wouldn’t be
pretty.
BUT!!! It was so
much fun!
The first part of the class was set aside to go over history,
the legalities of current BDSM, myths and then I defined three aspects of BDSM power exchange, role play and fetish / kink. Afterwards I went over the physical and
psychological aspects of play- from euphoria to crashing.
It was when the hands part got started that I was really
excited to have some fun!
Earlier in the class I had people look around to see what
BDSM toy interested them. Then at one point I had each of them go get a toy of
their choice. As a group we went through
what everyone had picked, and talked about the differences in different types
of the same toys as well as differences in cuffs. From there I gave each couple
an assignment, and then I let them go and see where their fantasies would take
them.
It was just what I had hoped that it would be. People loving
the experience of BDSM, getting excited about what they were doing, and seeing
the possibility of what could be done.
I loved watching as they brought their own desires to life,
as their faces went from excitement to being turned on, and hearing the room
fill with laughter and joy. It was
everything that I was hoping for.
I had one person that I worked with specifically in regards to
their identity and how they needed to understand their own body first and then
work from there. I loved that time, working with that person one on one.
Listening to their story and trying to let them know that they were not alone.
I would go from person to person giving them little bits of safety information
and then letting them go and experiment.
After the hands on portion, we came back together and did the
written questions part of the workshop. I use this in every class. Every person gets a piece of paper and a pen
to write down a question. It allows for anonymity and candor, and is a good way
to end the class overall.
The questions were great and the people were so engaged, but
how I knew it was a great class was the red faces as people bought their toys
and ran home. Most likely in a hurry to have tea and crumpets, or watch the
news and then retire quietly to bed, or maybe clean the bathroom.
But I doubt it…….
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