You can beat someone into feeling a certain way- but
probably not what you think. You can beat someone into submission, you can beat
them into fear, and you can beat them into coercion and compliance.
You cannot beat someone into consent, you cannot beat
someone into trust, and you cannot beat someone into making their heart stay.
When someone talks about beating their slave I always think-
what is this person getting out of that experience? And if they talk about it
with sexual excitement and pride where they are ramping themselves up and
looking for me to respond to them in
some way-- perhaps they want me to respond out of jealously or desire or out of
respect for them--- I can only think: ohh red flag.
Then I think about the beating of a slave a little more
globally and I ask myself: What are we really doing –versus- what are we
bragging about- versus- what do we think
we should be doing -versus -what do we think we are expected to do.
I am not saying that
a good solid beating doesn’t have its place- that is not what I am saying. When
pleasure and consent are involved – I LOVE a good solid take down of my slave.
LOVE IT- and so does she.
I am saying that if we are using beating or beatings to try
and change their minds, their thoughts, or their hearts- then it IS misplaced.
Some will argue that beating a slave makes sure that they
understand who is the Master, their place as a slave and it makes them
understand that there are consequences for behavior if it should displease the
Master.
Yes- it can do all those things- but let me take each of
those ideas out of fantasy and put them into the real world.
First, a beating makes the slave understand who is the
Master.
So what is the difference between beating a consensual slave and a non
consensual one? And I am talking the real world here as non consensual slavery is
very much alive and well.
Negotiation and consent.
It isn’t the beating
that makes the Master to the slave it is the negotiation- the talking- the psychological
and emotional recognition of the Masters role in the slaves life, and the slave
giving their consent to the Master. That type of talking and understanding takes
time, even after it is negotiated, to really fulfill itself in the slave.
A beating can imprint pain and if used as a single tool will
also imprint fear. Beating someone into fear, self preservation, or exhaustion will
trigger the fight or flight response. Once the fear and self preservation
buttons have been triggered by physical pain- no matter the initial logic- the
fight or flight wins out, and that is the end of logic. That is also the end of
consent.
Beating someone to
make sure that they know who the Master is can reinforce the M/s dynamic, the
power exchange and the roles. BUT-and this is significant here- It doesn’t create it. It isn’t the
starting point. And for some, if used haphazardly by the Master, it will create
resentment and disgust.
Second- it makes the slave understand their place. So what
is the slaves place? A punching bag? A mindless person that cannot make even a
basic decision without a cue or a command from someone else? To take whatever the
Master wants to dish out? Why? Not just why should they, but what is the point
of mindless obedience?
But this begs the real question here: what is the slaves place?
This is a question for the Master to ask themselves- what is
the slaves place in their life?
Is it to be a non entity at use for the Masters whim? Maybe
so –and I am not to say for other Masters.
What I can say is beating
creates one type of slave. Maybe that is the type of slave that that Masters wants
and needs.
Using other things creates another type of slave- and maybe
that is what that Master wants and needs.
That is very individual. It also means looking at beating as
“for” the slave instead of “for” the Master. It means the Master needs to realistically look at why they
are using beating- and be honest with themselves about what the outcomes of those
beatings mean. Is the Master doing it for their ego, their sexual gratification,
their emotional fulfillment of the act because it makes them feel powerful? What
happens afterwards? What happens when the Master needs more and more extreme
measures to feel that powerful? Like chasing that first high. When does the
beating stop being about the slaves development
and start being about fulfilling the Masters ego? And what does it mean about a
Master that needs a slave to have an internal sense of power?
Lastly it creates the understanding that there are
consequences for behavior that displeases the Master.
If the beating is directly related to the behavior – but here
is no intellectual understanding of what the person has done - then the only
thing a beating creates is confusion and fear. Just because a person can take a
beating does not mean that they understand the reason for it, or can, or are
willing to change. For some slaves they create
a situation of failure to get that beating, that attention from their Master- so
who is calling the shots then? The argument being if the Master does the
beatings right the slave will do anything to avoid them- but the reality is – that
takes the accountability off of the slave and puts it on the Master. If the Master
had beaten the slave right then the slave would have ___ ( fill in the blank.)
I am not opposed to beating a slave. I am not-
I am opposed to the Masters that beat without using
their head, who beats for their own pleasure and won’t admit it, I am opposed to
beating just to beat, or beating
because the Master thinks it will create service, I am opposed to
the Master that beats a newbie because they can play on
their inexperience, I am opposed to
beating someone into submission
because that flies in the face of consent, I am
opposed to the “ritual first
beating” to create the slave, I am opposed to
bragging about creating a numb mindless slave that couldn’t function in the real world if they tried, and I am opposed to
beating used as training.
Before you get all up in arms as to how “I am not a real
Master, blah blah blah”- take this into consideration first.
Have you ever seen that dog, cat, or horse with dead eyes?
The kind of eyes that are numb to the world, the kind of eyes that say “I have
nothing left in this life, including hope”. The kind of eyes where you can see
that their trust and their will have both been broken. The kind of eyes where although they fear for what their body may
go though they walk towards you anyway because they are too afraid and to conditioned
to do otherwise.
But they will not let you get close to their heart, they
will not let them self feel, they will not let you in.
Is that the kind of slave that you want in your life?
It isn’t in mine.
